It has been decades since America’s sexual revolution, and most individuals across the nation think little of sexual encounters throughout various dating experiences. But unfortunately, that has also led to rampant indiscretions and poor judgment when it comes to sex.
So how do you form good principles upon which to approach intimacy with news partners, or any partners at all? Well, I won’t go moralizing, but I will share with you some sound advice to help you be both courteous and safe in your bedroom activities.
NEVER have unprotected sexual relations of any variety with someone unless you know you are in a monogamous relationship and that you are both disease-free. Finding the latter out can be challenging, as inquiring after another person’s sexual health status can be seen as an affront.
But if you couch it in such a way that you care enough about the other person to be open and honest from the beginning, especially about such an important topic, then it will likely go over more smoothly.
Be willing to take an STD test yourself if necessary–that is simply a good policy to make sure that you are in tip-top shape. If you feel embarrassed about visiting a clinic or doctor’s office for this, never fear; there is the possibility to order one and administer it to yourself. Many sexually-transmitted infections do not have apparent symptoms for long periods of time, so don’t protest based on a lack of manifestation.
Be responsible with the protection you use. Latex condoms do not hold up well in heat or cold, so make sure to follow all directions regarding both storage and use. Many people make the mistake of storing them in a wallet or in the car–against professional advice. Doing so increases the risk of breakage. So be careful.
If you are trying to avoid conception, it is best to use two types of birth control. Condoms provide relatively reliable protection against the spread of disease, but one of every seven couples using them alone to prevent pregnancy still conceive. Hormonal birth control is the most reliable, but you and your partner should discuss all of the possibilities and make a decision that works best for you both.
While hormonal birth control is tremendously reliable, there is no way to completely prevent pregnancy except through sexual abstinence, so it is advisable to discuss a potential course of action should an unplanned pregnancy occur. Ideally, you will never have to execute your decision and you won’t have offspring until you’re ready, but it is always a good idea to be prepared.
I say this not to moralize or preach, but it is important to remember that sexual relationships are a responsibility. You owe it to yourself to be safe and prepared!